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For many, same-sex attraction is not just a matter of preference or lifestyle; it feels like a battle deep within. It’s the quiet storm of not feeling at home in your own skin. The awkwardness of never quite fitting in. The voice inside that whispers: “Something is wrong with me.”
These feelings can grow heavy turning into shame, self-doubt, or even self-hate. It isn’t only about what others see or say about you. The greater struggle is often inside where your identity and your desires don’t seem to line up.
You may have asked yourself: “Why do I feel this way? Did God make a mistake with me? If He gave me these desires, why would He say they are wrong?” These are not shallow questions. They are real, painful, and deserve real answers.
The good news is that God’s Word does not ignore these struggles. And even better – neither does God. The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob sees the confusion, the loneliness, the longing you wrestle with; and instead of pushing you away, He invites you to bring them to Him.
Truth in Love
As a Christian, I believe that from the very beginning, God designed humanity: “male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27). I believe that marriage was given as a covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24). And I believe Scripture makes it clear that same-sex intimacy is not part of God’s design (Romans 1:26–27; 1 Corinthians 6:9–11).
But the same Scripture also proclaims redemption: “And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.” (1 Corinthians 6:11).
This is not about rejection, it’s about God’s open invitation to freedom and new life in Christ.
I want to be transparent in that I didn’t always embrace this truth. In my ignorance, and before I truly understood God’s Word, I committed myself to another woman. But as I grew spiritually, the Lord opened my eyes, convicted my heart, and lovingly led me into the truth of His design. The goal is to continually seek Him. The key to unlocking the truth is to continually seek Him with a desire to live according to His will and not your own.
A Word Against Hate
Before going further, let this be clear: This message is never an excuse for hatred, cruelty, or violence against anyone who identifies as LGBTQ+.
To those tempted to use God’s Word as a weapon: know this—Scripture condemns hate as much as it condemns sexual sin. “Anyone who claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar” (1 John 4:20). God does not approve of mocking, bullying, or treating anyone as less than human. Every person is made in His image and is worthy of dignity and compassion.
To live in Christ is to speak truth – yes – but always in love (Ephesians 4:15). Anything less dishonors the very gospel we claim to believe.
When Attraction Feels Genuine
For those living with genuine same-sex attraction, the struggle is real. These desires may feel natural, but not everything that feels natural comes from God. All of us, in different ways, wrestle with desires touched by sin. The fact that a desire is strong does not mean it defines you.
Jesus understands this weight. Hebrews 4:15 says He was “tempted in every way, yet without sin.” He does not mock you for your struggle. Instead, He offers grace to endure, strength to resist, and power to live faithfully.
Love Beyond Romance
One of the hardest fears for many is: “If I can’t pursue same-sex love, does that mean I’ll never know love at all?”
The answer is no. God created you for love, but His vision of love is wider than romance. The love of Christ, the fellowship of His people, and the joy of His presence are deeper and more lasting than any human intimacy.
We sometimes forget that some of the most powerful voices in Scripture lived unmarried lives. Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament, remained single and even said, “I wish that all of you were as I am” (1 Corinthians 7:7). For him, singleness was not emptiness, it was freedom to serve the Lord with undivided devotion.
The prophet Jeremiah was commanded by God not to marry (Jeremiah 16:2). John the Baptist also lived single, wholly devoted to preparing the way of the Lord.
And of course, our Savior Jesus Himself lived unmarried, yet experienced the fullness of love in perfect fellowship with His Father and with those He came to save.
Their lives remind us that marriage is not the only way to live a meaningful, fruitful, love-filled life. Psalm 16:11 assures us: “In Your presence there is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” The joy and belonging you long for are real, and they are found most fully in Him.
A Journey of Surrender and Hope
Surrender doesn’t mean pretending your desires don’t exist. It means bringing them to Jesus and asking Him to shape your life according to His will. I did, and He did.
Some believers experience God transforming their attractions. Others continue to wrestle but walk victoriously by the Spirit’s power instead of their own. Either way, His grace is enough (2 Corinthians 12:9).
This is not a journey of shame. It is a journey of hope. The cross of Jesus is wide enough for you, strong enough for your struggle, and loving enough to embrace you fully.
And remember: You are not meant to walk this road alone. Seek out a Bible-believing community that will surround you with both grace and truth free of harsh, self-righteous, and unforgiving judgment and patient enough to let you work out your own salvation with fear and trembling (Philippians 2:12).
An Invitation
If you have wrestled with confusion about who you are or what you desire, hear this: you are not beyond God’s love.
If you have embraced a same-sex lifestyle yet still feel an emptiness deep inside, God’s love is reaching for you. If you have been battered by the cruelty of others and in anger have turned away from life and even from God, His love is still for you.
No wound is too deep, no mistake too great, no anger too fierce for the cross of Christ. He is patient, merciful, and willing to meet you right where you are with grace to heal and truth to set you free.
Pray this with me:
Merciful God, in the name of JESUS, I bring You my confusion, my desires, and my pain. Wash me clean. Help me not to be defined by my feelings or by the labels of others, but by Your truth. Heal me, renew me, and lead me into the life You created me to live. I choose You today. Amen.
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Peace & Blessings
Yetta N.A.
Keep walking towards the Cross. DON’T GIVE UP!
Until the next time, remember Jesus loves you
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